In the moments when you are dealing with changes it seems that your life goes upside down.
Settling in a new place and a new love in my life have created a bit of chaos in my day-to-day routine. New experiences completely took over everyday duties and all my intentions to write a new book daily and working on developing my coaching business were happily pushed aside.
That’s why I needed some sort of structure to become more productive. There are many recommendations about self-discipline, creating and sticking to to-do list, dividing tasks into urgent and important etc.
Obviously they bring brilliant results but not for me, because knowing what should be done and doing it are completely different things. As they say “… knowing the path and walking the path are completely different things…”
Everything that requires self-discipline creates a lot of resistance in me and every time I try to find excuses why I can’t follow my to-do list and, when I can’t come up with any meaningful reasons I end up having terrible headaches which allows me to do nothing and not feeling guilty about it.
Has being ill helped you to avoid something unpleasant in your life?
Last Sunday I decided to become supper efficient and create a list of actions for the week ahead and make sure that I will avoid all time wasters and stick to the plan.
Do you know how I spent my Sunday? – slept like groundhog during winter time for the whole day.
Well, I realised that self-discipline is not my thing; I want “easily and effortlessly”. I made an experiment for a week to listen to myself and do things suggested by my intuition.
NB – you can do it when you have learn to distinct the voice of Your Higher Self from your ego that tries to sabotage you.
I created so-called “Focus List” as a reminder, as there are some things you are bound to be doing like submitting papers to government institutions etc.
Monday went superb, managed to be super-efficient without a sweat. Even mundane paper work was done quickly and effortlessly. Creation of a new blog post took less time than usual. I even managed to be a good Mum and had dinner with my son and talked about his issues and I could be fully present for him.
Tuesday was devoted to friends and loved ones. Finding time for friends seems tough taking into consideration your and their business commitments. I managed to meet up with a friend for a drink and watching football match together, and later headed for a date with my boyfriend. While he was recording his song in his studio I was listening and enjoying music and at the same time I was writing a book review, as the result leisure and work was combined perfectly.
Some notes here:
it’s very easy to succumb to business needs and being busy in general, so create a separate time which you devote only to your loved ones, being fully present for either your child, parent, friend or partner; 30 minutes of full presence is more valuable than doing your own stuff in each other’s presence for 3 hours.
By Wednesday I felt tired of being efficient, even cooking which is my passion was done mechanically only because “kids need to eat something” according to my 16 year old daughter who has suddenly found appreciation for my cooking skills. I miss those days when she tried to prove that she cooks better than me and every day I was met with a new dish.
When you feel tired or stuck, pause and listen to yourself, look around and find the reason for your current conditions. It took me 5 minutes to realise that still unpacked boxes in my room drain my energy and block creativity.
Within 2 hours my room was revamped and it gave me a new kick of energy.
My week ended in creating delicious roasted duck salad which I never tried before, the trickiest part was to cut carrots and celery into matchstick size.
Conclusions (which might be obvious)
there is no 100% right or wrong time management system, it either works for you or not, some parts may be applicable for you, some not. Even when it is written by a self-development guru.
You are a unique human being, so if you can’t follow one particular system it’s not because you are bad at time management, you haven’t adjusted the system to your needs yet.
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